A Pastor’s Wife and her journey to the ministry.
Leaving School, Going to God
Right after High School, the Lord saved me. After suffering because of my personal mistakes, God gave me a chance to do things right. I began to search for God more. I spent a whole week in revival services in San Antonio and the Lord blessed me like you wouldn’t believe! By the end of the week, I started to feel like the Lord was leading me in a different path. I felt like there was more for me than what I had planned for myself. I’m not going to lie, I was nervous. I began to feel a calling to do something more with my life other than what I had always thought I was going to do. And no, nobody influenced me to take these steps.
Leaving the Past, Used for the Future
I felt that calling to take this step away from my past life because I KNEW God wanted to use me. I just didn’t completely understand how He was going to use me yet. Once I made that decision it was time to tell my family what I was about to do and TRUST ME, nobody was jumping for joy when I told them this. It wasn’t ideal.
Moving Away from Home but Closer to God
I ended up moving to San Antonio with my grandparents and started helping in their church to see what it really was that God was wanting from me. Guys! That was one of the best years of my life! I grew up from that point on. Seeing God through my new eyes gave me a new perspective.
I began to worship with the talents that God had given me.
Playing the drums in services, the guitar, I MEAN I EVEN STARTED SINGING FOR THE LORD, brought me so much joy.
I was so much happier and so in love with God.
Becoming a New Child in Christ
Feeling a burning passion to always be in the house of God, ended up allowing me the chance to be baptized with the Holy Spirit and in Water. I will never forget that summer and every single change God made in my life. I went from being a lying, cheating, selfish hypocrite, to being a child of God. Like it says in 2nd Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.”
Becoming a Wife, Becoming a Pastor’s Wife
Well, I ended up meeting my husband that summer as well. That summer everything changed. My husband and I had started talking about what the future had in store for us. We obviously were committed to getting married … one day, but we didn’t think we were going to get married so soon. We had always mentioned maybe in 2 or 3 years. My husband also had every intention to study the word of God and go back to his home church and help as a faithful member.
So when I found out he felt the calling and was going to become a pastor a couple of months after we had started to court, I was a little shocked. A Pastor’s Wife? Me? Actually I’ll be honest I almost threw up. My aunts remember, I was crying a bit, I was nervous.
God’s Plans VS. Yours
I mean, I knew from the point that the Lord saved me up until that moment I heard my future husband say he was going to become a pastor, that God had something more for me but I never thought it was going to be this. I remember spending summers in San Antonio as a child with my grandparents, picking up brothers and sisters from their church, and hearing my grandma say “Briana’s going to marry a Pastor” and me thinking “Ummm no”. But for some reason, God had this planned for me all along.
He knew from the day that He formed me in my mother’s womb that he was going to place me in the area that I’m in today. So, when my husband felt the calling to minister, he automatically said “Well, what do you think? Let’s get married.” So we did. We met June of 2012, Got engaged in December 2012, and got married in June 2013.
I was 18, but so full of joy and happiness because I knew that this is what God had for me. And all other things set aside I loved him and still do to this very day.
Pastor’s Wife In Other’s Eyes
We’ve been married for 7 years, we’ve been in the ministry this whole time, and have become parents to two beautiful little girls and my life is not easy but blessed. Yes, life has been hard but if I could do it over again, I would in a heartbeat.
Getting married at 18 isn’t the “ideal” lifestyle in many people’s eyes. Let me mention some of the things I’ve had people personally tell me from the first day I stepped into this role of wife/ pastors wife.
Better yet, let me tell you a couple of things people, still to this day, tell me. (Friends, Family members, Church members … etc)
- “Why would you ruin your life?” “Pastor’s Wife?” “What about College?”
- “You’re so young… I feel bad for you. Don’t you regret it.”
- “Mija, I would hate to be in your shoes, you’re going to suffer. You’re going to cry a lot “
- “You aren’t doing anything with your life.” “Pastor’s Wife, they don’t have lives.”
- “aren’t you tired of being with the same person every day.”
- “I hope my daughter never has to go through anything you’re going to go through.”
- “Well, great knowing you.” “You’re going to change.”
This list goes on and on …
What do I have to say about this?
Pastor’s Wife In My Eye’s, In God’s Eyes
First off, I didn’t ruin my life. I know that my life has been better from the day that God saved me to this very moment I’m writing this blog. Why? Because I have put all my delight in the Lord and in nothing else. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalms 37:4.
Second, That’s fine, you can feel bad for me, but I don’t feel bad for myself. I have a God who loves me, a husband that loves me, daughters who love me … what more could I ask for? So what if I’m so young in your eyes? I don’t regret a single thing. God’s plans are greater than my plans have ever been for me! “For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope”. Jeremiah 29:11.
God knows what He’s doing in your life.
Third, you know what, I have suffered, I have cried but it’s all been to mold me into the person I am today. And I haven’t suffered because I’m a pastors wife or because I got married at 18, I’ve suffered small things like having people criticize me simply because I’m younger than they are and I’m their pastor’s wife. And I haven’t cried because of the fact the I’m a pastors wife or because I got married at 18, I cried because Life is hard, in general, and we ALL know that’s true.
Fourth, You may think I’m not doing anything with my life but I’m literally living my life to the fullest. I’ve seen God change me through first-hand experience, and have seen God save an ENTIRE FAMILY and bring them to the altar. I’ve been able to travel, meet other brothers and sisters in Christ. I have an amazing group of friends that care for me and love me just as much as I do for them. I have a husband that fears God more than anything else in this world giving me the satisfaction of knowing he will NEVER LEAVE ME, CHEAT ON ME, or HURT ME in any way.
So when I’ve been asked, “aren’t you tired of seeing the same person every day?” No, honestly I’m not. I’m grateful that I have my husband in my life. Fifth, I’d be completely ecstatic to have my daughter lead the same life I’m living now! Sixth, I have changed. I changed because God changed me. He made me new, He made me whole. God literally has handed to me a family of my own, and for that I’m am completely humbled.
Being a young wife has made me appreciate everything that God has ever given me. Now, I’m not saying that everyone should get married at 18 because what is right for me may not necessarily be what God has for you. But what I am saying, is that God loved me enough to give himself up for me. So I could be free from every lie I’ve ever lived. God loved me enough to take me as his daughter and bless me with my husband and daughters.
I wouldn’t change anything That God has given me.
God is so good to me.